Manipulation is a tool that people use to succeed in getting their own way. Manipulation stems from selfishness and it stems from doubt. Selfish motives are destructive. We think we know what we need, so we take it upon ourselves to get it. Only God knows what we need and He knows how to get it to us effectively, honestly, safely and permanently. If we do things our own way and with ourselves in mind, we will eventually fail. And, if by chance we succeed at first, we will still eventually fail if we do it our own way because peace will not follow us. There will be no peace.
When you manipulate someone, you totally disregard their feelings. Is this loving your neighbor as yourself? Is this the way you would want someone to treat you? Would you honestly not care if someone was purposely deceiving you because of a selfish motive?
Manipulation can also stem from doubt. If you have fear in your life, you will have doubt. Faith, joy, strength and love can overcome fear in your life. If you have total trust in God to handle all things in your life, then you will have no fear, no doubt, and no need to manipulate. If you feel at times an urge or need to manipulate, then you are not trusting God to handle things His way and in His time. You must learn to wait on God. If you are not waiting on God, you are walking ahead of Him and His will for you – you are walking in disobedience.
God doesn’t accept manipulation on any condition. If you have it in your heart to do something and you give a person a different impression of what is in your heart and what you are doing and the reason for it – that is the same as a lie! It is deceiving and it is a deceiving way of handling life. When you are talking with someone and you are giving them the impression you mean one thing and you don’t – it is fakery! It’s deceiving – it’s manipulation – it’s a lie! It’s witchcraft!
Satan attempted to entice Jesus to suicide: “Then the devil took him to the holy city and had him stand on the highest point of the temple. If you are the Son of God,” he said, “throw yourself down”. Matt 5:4a (NIV)
Remember: “If you allow someone to manipulate you through obligation, distraction or temptation then you are living for their good pleasure!”
(See: Philippians 2:13; Ephesians 1:5 and Ephesians 1:9)
Excerpt From: Fresh Life Tools – The Book