“People were bringing little children to Jesus to have him touch them, but the disciples rebuked them. When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” And he took the children in his arms, put his hands on them and blessed them”. Mark 10:13 (NIV)
We have a right to be angry – sometimes it is appropriate anger (righteous indignation), sometimes it is not. No matter which type of anger it is – we have no right to carry it – so don’t hold on to it.
No matter what someone has done to you – no matter what someone is doing to you – we have no right to carry it!
We must forgive! Ask God this question; “God is my anger at someone delaying you being able to work in my life?” We can throw a roadblock at God’s feet when we are angry at someone, righteous anger or not. We must forgive them. When we negate Christ’s work on the cross by not forgiving people from the bottom of our heart – we are road-blocking God’s work in us, and towards us! Plus, you are putting a wedge between you and God!
Even If you are right it is very tough forgiving someone who is going against something you know you are doing because God told you too – and you are not getting anything out of it. That is definitely the hardest part. Plus, you feel you are being persecuted! In fact, that is exactly what it is – its persecution. However, they don’t realize it is what they are doing. But you are getting hurt constantly.
A serious danger zone!
Irrational un-forgiveness is someone’s need to make you feel like you made them feel!
Any hint of this type of un-forgiveness IS a danger zone. You have bitterness! Is this returning evil for evil?
“Be angry, but don’t sin – don’t let the sun go down before you have dealt with the cause of your anger, otherwise you will leave room for the adversary.” Ephesians 4:26 (JNT)
There can be high price for carried anger! There is no such thing as unexpressed anger. The question is whether anger is expressed constructively or destructively. When not expressed constructively, it doesn’t disappear or evaporate. Just as someone collects frequent flyer miles and eventually cashes them in for free gifts, people save up angry feelings and later cash them at people, as well as themselves! This is destructive because, it’s a “last straw” that is reacted to – and the “targeted person” has no way of knowing exactly what he/she did to anger you. When anger is denied or stuffed inside of you it tends to leak out in indirect ways. Even if one’s aggression is passive, indirect or a bit sneaky, it is aggression nonetheless and can be destructive. Example: Hostile statements such as a compliment with a “hook” in it, or a hostile remark followed by, “I’m just kidding. Can’t you take a joke?” A well recognized major cause of depression is anger expressed inwardly instead of outwardly, causing the person to fall into depression. Instead of being directed toward its original object, the anger is directed at life or oneself! Anger must be dealt with – if that were not so – God would not have mentioned it! So, what is the main key here to anger management? Take time to deal with your anger issues before going to bed! This should be a must in one’s life!